"Can't we talk?":
I do think that Tannen does come up with realistic situations. The situations that Tannen came up with I have seen in real life before. Each couples situations are different, but the similar at the same time. Each wife wants her husband to consider her feelings before they do anything. Each husband wants their wives to not be sensitive. To each couple I advice that they talk to each other. Not only talking about how her husband doesn't listen to her or consider her feelings, but both talk. Especially the husband about how he feels about his wife telling him how he does not care. I believe that if every couple really talks to one another they will have a healthy relationship. I think that talking to each other is the most important key to a good relationship. When things are left unsaid they are kept inside and it just builds inside.